question:
how would you know when you have found THE ONE in your life?

*someone asked me this.. and i didnt know how to answer, but now im quite certain of it. it was one of my long-time-no-see friends.. at such a young age, can we ensure that a relationship lasts for at least another thirty years? how can we prove that: yes, this is the person that i'm willling to spend my life with and blablabla. i mean, why ask me, when im still so young and naive? anyway, its a good question, and now i have the answer, so i shall say it.*

maybe it does sound abit corny..
but to me, a relationship doesnt last if both parties arent committed. and what attracts me, isnt just looks (although i wont mind) or money (i wont mind that either), its more of personality. it doesnt matter whether the person has a negative mindset or a positive one, i look out for honestly and 'open-ness', and of course (all girls want this,) a sense of security.

a sense of security doesnt mean a well-built body and well-developed muscles, its more of a mental thing, to me its just simply being there for me even if im in dire straits and blablabla. (i notice i use alot of blablablas.) and of course, not allowing me to get bullied. (i get bullied ALOT, and i think i dont deserve it, and it makes me looks stupid. O_O)

but of course, every girl has a different perspective of this, so i shan't be strong-headed about my own view.

AND, some relationships are so bizzare and hard to explain, so i guess its because of one factor called CHEMISTRY. i guess there must be abit of this in every relationship, for without this, its really quite hard to commit. ^_^" but of course, a relationship built only on chemistry isnt healthy, no trust, blablablablabla.

but i think the l-o-v-e word is overrated, its used too commonly, that nowadays it doesnt mean much. you just say it to make people happy. most of the time, its just the other L word, l-i-k-e.

of course, when i say any of the two L words, i really mean it, so if you receive them from me, rejoice. no, im joking (it aint funny noelle). and i do believe in l-o-v-e at first sight, although that is overrated nowadays too.

a relationship needs trust (i mean, DUHH), spice (actually, its romance, but not as in the FLOWERS kind, and i think flowers are overrated too.. but i love flowers. hurray.), chemistry and commitment.

spice, to me, means pleasant surprises (i love them.) like falling in l-o-v-e all over again every single time you see the ONE. and knowing something new about him/her all the time. spice doesnt mean sending flowers in front of everyone just to impress him/her. (but yes, i still love flowers.) well, go surprise people and make them happy then.

and if you arent happy in a relationship, give it up. you dont have to give a reason if you break up because you arent happy. and i think staying in one that makes you cry all the time is tormenting. O_O

heh heh. heard enough from the relationship shrink? well, how do i know so much.. i guess ive experienced ABIT (no, im not in a relationship YET, dont give me that look). ive experienced enough to know when to start and stop.. *smile smile*

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okay, back to the current. IM SICK AGAIN, with a severe cold and running nose.. damn. i know why i got it, and i blame myself for being stupid and not bringing a proper jacket. and my feet are still numb, my hands are typing so slowly, and my back is aching. and the best part is.. i still have ballet later. praise the heavens.

well, enough. shall go down and grab breakfast and play shaun's ps2.
GO, enjoy whats left of the ending holidays.